It was disturbing to see people losing their values: children speaking rudely to parents and teachers, colleagues never respecting the committed timelines, friends reaching late on every occasion, family members not understanding simple things. It was a long list of things that irritated Sahil (name changed). He felt frustrated. He believed that it is his responsibility to set things right. As a result, he was always seen telling people how to speak, how to act, criticising each and everything, passing sarcastic comments. He was restless and he was making others also restless.
Those very close to Sahil respected him for his genuine concern and care, but others started feeling annoyed. People began avoiding him. No one wanted to talk to Sahil. They knew talking to Sahil meant spoiling their own mood and that of Sahil.
It is important to understand that "Change needs effort". To make an effort one needs extra energy- feel positive and high.
Scolding, screaming, complaining, use of sarcasm- all result in low energy- a state when change is just not possible. One needs to start with appreciation of the strengths. This would make a person feel high on energy. Thats is when a change can be suggested , again linking with how that change can help ther person grow further- the positive side.
This may be required a couple of times to bring the desired result. Again, this may not work in 100% of cases, but this will definitely have a higher chance of influencing while maintaining positive relationships.
Those very close to Sahil respected him for his genuine concern and care, but others started feeling annoyed. People began avoiding him. No one wanted to talk to Sahil. They knew talking to Sahil meant spoiling their own mood and that of Sahil.
It is important to understand that "Change needs effort". To make an effort one needs extra energy- feel positive and high.
Scolding, screaming, complaining, use of sarcasm- all result in low energy- a state when change is just not possible. One needs to start with appreciation of the strengths. This would make a person feel high on energy. Thats is when a change can be suggested , again linking with how that change can help ther person grow further- the positive side.
This may be required a couple of times to bring the desired result. Again, this may not work in 100% of cases, but this will definitely have a higher chance of influencing while maintaining positive relationships.
